Sunday, January 31, 2010

What Happens After

My word.

The Que and I still have been rendezvous-ing all over the place. Well, all over my bed. We're no closer to anything resembling a real relationship, but at this point, we're using each other for our bodies, ha. It's quite liberating, actually. I think. Whatever we're doing is much better than any other flings I've had--if only for the fact that this one comes with nakedness and such. And no manipulative mind games. The whole "he has a whole lot of other women" trope is still here, though. But both (all four?) of my eyes are open, and his are too, so I'm praying we avoid any nasty collisions.

You know what sucks, though? When he rolls over and falls asleep afterward. I've been reading women's magazines for the better part of 10 years so I get that it's chemical ("a man thing" if you will) that I shouldn't take personally. But how come men get the "crash after orgasm" chemical and women get the simulated sensation of love/closeness towards the person from whence said orgasm came? Even if he is snoring. I try not to fret over it. I usually turn on "The Office" until my head mmmm, and my body mellow out. And um, there's not really any cuddling. Seriously, he sleeps like a log. That takes up a lot of space in what I previously thought was a big bed.

Is that healthy? I'd be interested to know what folks do after intercourse or intercourse-like activities. During the actual activities, though? I've got that covered. COVERED, IT IS.


(vixenchick) said...

hey lucky!
the whole friends-with-benefits thing can be fun, but PLEASE be careful. I don't wanna see you get hurt.

love you!



Lucky said...

hey darling! i'm being as careful as i can with the emotional aspect of it. i'd be lying if i said i wasn't a teeny bit scared but at this point the good is outweighing the potentially explosive-in-a-bad-way. i lurrrrve you for caring though!

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I'm with Vixen, do look after yourself.

I'm a massive cuddler, even with casual relationships, well maybe not cuddling just physical contact post-game and I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that.

However I get that not everyone is into that so don't fret your pretty little head about it. But if you're ever not happy about something, no matter what the state of the relationship then you should speak out!

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Anonymous said...


I would be worried if he didn't crash right after sex. The only thing that will keep a guy awake after sex is worries and/or lack of satisfaction.

As for cuddling, I wouldn't seriously worry about that until you get serious with the guy.

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